Life is busy, stressful and sometimes draining. It doesn’t matter how motivated and dedicated you are to your goals, sometimes your energy just fizzles out or you feel completely overwhelmed. Others place huge demands on you, or you burn the candle at both ends. Whatever the cause of your depletion, you need to find a way to restore your energy. Then you can get back to living your best life.
Personality plays a part
Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert is a huge factor in how you restore your energy. Lots of people believe that introversion means your shy while extroversion means you’re loud and social. That’s not entirely true. Introversion/extroversion is actually more about how you get your energy.
Introverts restore their energy from within, usually by having quiet time. Extroverts restore their energy by being around other people. Introverts can be very social and not at all shy, but they still prefer their own space when they’re feeling depleted. Extroverts on the other hand, can be very shy, but they still get their energy from being around other people.
I am most definitely an introvert. Not so much shy, but definitely socially awkward. And given the opportunity to go to a party or have the house to myself for a few hours, “Lock in B, Eddie!”
How I restore my energy
Since becoming a mum, I get very little time entirely to myself. When the baby’s asleep, the husband wants to talk to me, and when the husband’s working, the baby needs my attention. Even when everyone else is asleep, I’m listening out for the baby or trying to think ahead to what he’ll need when he wakes up.
In my day job I’m meeting with people every day that I’ve never met before. I need to learn a lot of information about them in a short space of time. Then I go back to my desk which is in an open plan environment and can be extremely noisy as discussions go on around the office.
All of this is completely draining to me. That’s not to say I don’t enjoy any of it. I love ALL of it. But it drains my energy. So I need to then find some quiet time to recharge.
These are my favourite ways to restore my energy:
Not the kind of cooking where you’re trying to get dinner on the table before the kid loses his mind and the husband eats all the snacks. The kind of cooking where the kitchen is clean, the music is playing, and I can create. The aspects of cooking that bring me comfort are a bit contradictory. On one hand I enjoy having a process to follow. But on the other hand, I like deviating a bit and being creative. I tend to look at a heap of different recipes and then make my own up based loosely on what I’ve read.
Whether I’m reading to learn, or reading to escape, it restores my energy. The non-fiction books I read teach me about something I’m interested in. This inspires me and boosts my energy a lot. When I read fiction, I remove myself from my own world for a little while and become totally absorbed in another story. My brain gets a chance to let go of all my own issues and worries. My body gets a chance to rest. And I feel restored.
Stress often builds up and energy begins to drain when I’m feeling overwhelmed. The best way I’ve found to combat this is to sit down and write it all out. Dumping all my tasks onto a bit of paper and then sorting out a plan helps me to feel calmer and more in control. I like to plan my meals, my week, my goals, and my work. More often than not, I have to deviate from the plan. Things come up. That’s life. But working out the plan is therapeutic for me, and having the plan helps me feel a bit more energised and focused.
One of my favourite, but most rare forms of energy restoration is a luxurious soak in the bath. Hot water, bubbles, essential oils, soft music, and a good novel. And a glass of wine. Don’t forget the wine. This gives me some time out away from every other human, relaxes all my muscles, and makes me feel pampered. At the end of it, I’m usually nice and relaxed and ready to face the world again. It makes me a bit sad to realise that it’s been about two years since I’ve properly enjoyed this experience, so it’s going on my list for 2019 to make it a more regular occurrence.
Other (boring but important) forms of energy restoration
Now of course, there are other ways to restore your energy that are important to mention. These are the things that are important for all people, regardless of whether you are an introvert or extrovert. They are also the things that we read about alllll the time and know we should be doing… you know the ones.
I’m not gonna go into them in this post but keep them in mind. They really do help!
So I’ve talked about some of my favourite ways to restore my energy as an introvert. I’d love to hear your favourite methods. Please leave a comment below!